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all spotlight questions asked between january 29, 2017 and february 4, 2017 • everything answered (unless there were repeats) • got more questions for me? ask!

roy graves
If you could switch bodies with someone for twenty four hours, who would it be and why? Okay, so people have asked me this before, but I've never been able to come up with an answer. So I kinda take that as I wouldn't really want to change places with anyone. I think everyone has their own battles that they're fighting, and you may not see it, so just because someone's life looks good from the outside, doesn't mean it's really that. Grass is greener, and all that. So if I could, I wouldn't. Hopefully you don't think this is a cop-out answer!

What's a bad habit you've broken? Are there any still you wish you could break? Years ago, I used to smoke. Which, I'm really glad I broke that habit, I did that more when I was a teen than anything else. Another habit I'd like to break is to stop blindly trusting people and putting all my faith into them; while I do try to find the best in people, it's bitten me in the ass a lot lately. Unless you wanted a less serious answers then uh...I could stop buying shoes?

What are you most proud of? My accomplishments, which I know is a very 'pageant' answer, but I've been through a lot in my life. I've lived my life as someone who has had to fight for everything I've gotten -- nothing was ever handed to me on a silver platter, despite who my mother was. I wanted to be a gymnastic, I worked hard and busted my ass and I got on the US Olympic team. I wanted to go to a good college, so I busted ass and got accepted into MIT. I wanted to prove I could be my own boss, so I busted my ass and started a business. But every step of the way there was someone or something trying to hold me back, and sometimes I fell but most of the time I fought my way to the top. So, I'm really proud of everything that I've accomplished. I earned everything that I have, and no one can take that from me.

What are your top three favorite books and why? The Shining by Stephen King, because it was my first horror novel that I read, and I absolutely fell in love with it. The Divine Comedy by Dante Alighieri, which I know is more of an epic poem than a novel, but it was one my father love a lot. I have his old copy, that has notes in it, and I'm never going to let that book out of my sight. The last one is a toss up, I want to be that lame person and say On the Road by Kerouac, only because that's the first thing that comes to my mind, and I used to love reading the beat poets.

If you could witness any event of the past, present, or future, what would it be? The last good memory that I have my father and I before he died. I'm taking this as a "relive the past" more than anything else.

What's your earliest memory? When I was little, my mom wanted me to go into a beauty pageant. She was determined, she was kind of one of those stage moms, and she cared so much more about her own life and things instead of what I wanted. My father wanted to keep my mother happy, but knew my happiness was more important. He asked what I wanted to do instead of be in the pageant, and I said I wanted to play soccer and play on the jungle gym. My mother was furious, said that little 'rich girls' were not meant for sports and getting dirty. I tried to fight her on it the best that I could, but it wouldn't work. I was signed up for the pageant and that was that.

Then the morning of the pageant, my hair is all up in this hideous up-do and I'm in the worst fluffy dress, and my mom leaves the room for a moment. My father comes in, and says, "Quick, Faith, let's go have some real fun," and I'm holding his hand giggling as we run out of the penthouse to my mother's screaming and we jump in the car. We ended up at this playground, and there was a soccer field next to it. It had rained the day before, so the ground was all muddy and there were puddles everywhere. I was worried at first, because I'd run my dress and I'd get mom mad, but my Dad, who was also dressed to the nines, wanted to prove to me that clothes were just clothes. So he jumped in the mud and when I saw how fun it was, I went running after him, and we spend the day playing in that playground, getting covered in mud from head to toe, and by the end of it we were messes and my mother was pissed.

It was one of the best days of my childhood that I can remember, I loved every second of it.

What's something you wish everyone knew about you? That I'm not really someone who feels she can be completely honest with a lot of people. So if you find that I'm being more open than the average person to you, that means I trust you. Oh, and that my favorite colors are silver and black, and I'm really not as high maintenance as I might come off as.

What do you wish you had learned earlier? How to cut toxic people out of my life. Though, I think that's a lesson a lot of people learn late in life, only due to circumstances and situations.

kenny reyes
if you had the ability to re-watch your life, like rewind, replay, fast forward, and see all your best and worst moments, would you? I kinda just answered this (accidentally), so yeah, I think I would. I'd obviously want to focus on the good moments, because I already know those are the ones that will bring me joy and make me smile, but maybe I'd even relive some of the bad moments too, since those are the ones that can serve as a reminder. I have a pretty good memory already though, I tend to remember little things that people say, so be it favorite movies, books, something they said they liked four months ago that I can surprise them with now, so I mostly have the memories that I want. But, yeah, I think if I had that ability, I'd use it.

michael murdoch
Why does the cat make with the kneady thing on my stomach? Because she's a cat.

When do I get to see the new place? Eventually.

What's the most important thing to you? Those who matter most to me, who value me and my happiness, and are not stubborn enough to realize that the world revolves more than just them. Honesty is a big thing too. And being able to give as much as you get, all of that. And truthful honest forgiveness, not just saying it to make someone happy. All of that matters to me.

cooper kelson
what is your favorite way to spend the average day? Well my average day is pretty busy! I wake up, work out, finish any errands that I have to do, before heading to the club, working there for a while, and then heading home. I take other business meetings in there somewhere. My favorite way to spend a lazy day is curl up with Netflix, my cat, and my favorite person, and just settle in for a comfortable and relaxing day.

what two moments in your life will you never forget? Truthfully, I have two moments, one is good and one is bad. Both are extremely personal, so I won't share them (I apologize), but I do have moments I won't forget simply because they helped me (both in their weird ways) to make me the person I am today.

what makes you feel happy in your own skin? It took a lot for me to feel fully happy in my own skin, to finally feel like I was free of anything that was holding me back or standing in my way. But now that those are gone, I feel happy and content in my life. It also helps that I have a good support system.

describe yourself in ten words or less Extremely happy & kicking ass.

connor hwang
what is your favorite thing about living in boston? The people that I've met.

if a movie was being made of your life and you could choose the actress to play you, who would you choose and why? If it was a film made when I was older, then I'd pick Charlize Theron because I have a major girl crush on her, and she's seriously a bad ass.

what's the most important thing to you in life? The happiness of those I love, and having a roof over my head.
what was the weirdest food you've ever eaten? Caviar. Not really weird, but I wasn't a fan.

if you had one extra hour of free time a day, how would you use it? I was going to be really cute and sweet here, but truthfully I'd most likely go have sex.

if you could spend 15 minutes with any living person, who would it be and why? Considering everyone I know is living, this is a trick question...right??

ophelia graves
If you had to choose to live without one Of your five senses, which one would you give up? Smell, I guess, if I had to.

what animal best represents you and why? Cat! I'm independent like one, but I also like affection on my own terms. Plus I've been told I have a tendency to move like one from time to time.

in what ways do you hold yourself back? When I feel I may be stepping on toes, or I might be upsetting someone.

how do you want to be remembered? As someone who was good to those she loved and cared about. And someone with an awesome shoe collection, obviously.

what makes you happiest? My friends, my boyfriend, my cat, and having days off.

what is home to you? When I feel the most comfortable.

what motivates you to succeed? The fact that I don't ever want anyone to be in control of my life but me.

if you could choose how you die, how would you go out? With a bang.

how do you define love? Are you sure you want me to get into this, considering the person I'm in love with is your brother?

What is your weirdest habit? I dance around in my underwear to really bad pop music while cleaning my house.

Describe your worst date ever? In the middle of a date, a guy asked me to step on him with my high heels while he had his hands tied behind his back. He then asked if he could wear a diaper while I walked on him. I immediately left.

What is your best talent? I'm a gymnast, so I'd say that.

Would you ever consider being a nudist? Hmm. Yeah sure, why not?

What is your guilty pleasure? Listening to bad pop songs and singing on the top of my lungs. Mostly, I don't believe in guilty pleasures, because if I am enjoying it and it is a pleasure to me, then I'm not feeling guilty about it.

What is the worst sexual experience you've ever had? One very obvious answer comes to mind, but instead of that: I had gone back to a guy's apartment in college, where he couldn't get it up, and threw me a vibrator to take care of myself while he watched. Which, is to say I did not do that, and a few months later he ended up coming out as gay anyway. And now he's one of my closest friends, he lives in California now, but we still keep in touch.

Does size matter? If you know how to use it, then size doesn't matter.

If you had to choose one thing you were most passionate about, what would it be and why? My business, only because I put a lot into it, and I'm damn proud of it. Plus, most people are really surprised at a woman owning a gentleman's club.

where is the most beautiful place on earth and why? My bedroom. Kidding! I've only seen photos, but Rome looks beautiful.

If you could buy one material thing, and money was not an issue, what would it be? A tropical island, with a resort on it. Honestly, I'd just by Necker Island from Sir Richard Brandson.

Which famous person would you like to be BFFs with? Charlize Theron. Swoon.

Is there anything I can do that will make your heart rest easier? Your life run smoother? Ophelia, how thoughtful of you!

Have you ever been caught naked by someone? Yep.

Do you think you could punch someone and knock them off their senses? God, I hope so.

Who is the biggest jerk/bitch you've ever come across in your life and why? No comment.

What's your routine every night just before you go to sleep? Wash my makeup off, brush my teeth, and read a bit before bed.

If the world froze for an afternoon and only you could move and no one could see you or remember what you did, what would you do? Immediately try to unfreeze people, because that's kinda fucked up. Because if only I could move, and the world was frozen, nothing else could move, which would mean things would get really boring really fast. Or, I could be like the Futurama finale and just walk around the world.